Well you were probably thinking too much and not feeling enough. Most people enter relationships for the 'wrong' reasons, to end loneliness, fill a gap, bring themselves love, or someone to love. Others do so to solve their ego and their depressions, improve their sexlife, recover from a previous relationship, or believe it or not, to relieve boredom. For most people 'love' is a response to the need of fullfillment.
Love isn't always twosided. But when it is you make some kind of a agreement, a fair trade.
You agree to trade what you've got for that what the other one got. You agree to put some effort. It's a transaction. But you don't say: 'I trade you very much.' You say:'I love you very much'
A relationship isn't all rainbows and butterflies. We all get dissapointed in a relationship sometimes. Untill that certain point in a relationship when the relationship turns into a relationshit. I think we agree with eachother that shit happens.
It happens in many cases that someone does what they think is best for the other in a relationship. Ultimately, the person who is trying to do what is right, by being quickly to forgive, to show compassion, to continually look past certain problems and behaviours, becomes resentful, angry and mistrusting. And does not understand why he or she continually has to suffer and sacrifice in the name of love.
I'm sure you recognize yourself in this. I've been there, done that. This is a problem. A lot of us have dealt with this, I think. And the answer is, to put yourself first. Include yourself among those you love. Think about your wants and needs too! You do not have to put up with attacks on your dignity, assaults on your pride, damage on your psyche and wounds to your heart in order to say that you've given your best in a relationship. When you've given it your all sometimes the best thing you can do is to let go.
When I want for you, what you want for you, then I truly love you.
When I want for you, what I want for you, I'm loving me through you.
-partially quoted from 'Conversations with God' by Donald Neals Walsch. -